Healthy Conflict

This page will focus on:
(1) Conflict Resolution
(2) Anger Management
(3) Mindfulness Techniques--using the latest in neuroscience research....think amygdala hijacking!

What are the easiest ways to resolve conflict?

First, de-escalate the disagreement by choosing a later time to sit down together and go through a mediated discussion. What I mean by mediated is having a neutral party--it can be as simple as a card or talking piece that lets each of you take turns in discussing the topic of disagreement at hand. A neutral party can also be an outside source such as a counselor, mediator, or facilitator. This is an uninterested party, i.e. not your best friend, more like a clergy member.

Check back later as I am able to add more to the blog!

The Basic Ways We Change

There are three ways in which we can actively monitor ourselves so that we may change how we interact with our surroundings:

(1) Thoughts (cognitions)
(2) Feelings (emotions)
(3) Actions (behaviors)

When you are in traditional counseling sessions--the counselor uses a variety of theories that typically focus on one of these areas to help you make changes in your life. In the best case scenario the theory that the counselor is using is based on their training background/when they received their masters degree, as well as what the current trend is based upon research on the effectiveness of the theories in actual practice. However, we won't delve too deeply into theories and understanding methodology, because this site is educational and for you to understand more of how you work.

The activities that are posted and linked on this blog are to help give you immediate tools to begin actively reorganizing how you interact with your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

People that are aware that they can use their feelings and thoughts to influence their actions are able to control what happens to them. Novel idea? This is because they recognize that they can influence their outcomes based on identifying the emotions they are feeling, then choosing what thoughts they would like to focus on, and then putting it in to action.

Latest Research on the Impact of Marriage on Family Life

This week check out your skills on how much you know about how marriage impacts family life.

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