A Lifetime to Love--Sharing Unconditional Love

The purpose of this blog is to help you have healthier relationships by giving you information and skills to change how you relate with others. I would like to help you gain experience in giving and receiving unconditional love with your partner, family, friends, acquaintances & strangers. It is open to all people: young or old, single or married, all faiths and denominations, and it is GLBT-friendly. Click on tabs below to learn more! These pages are often updated.

Intimacy

One of the greatest pieces of advice my husband and I were ever given before we got married and began living together was just this:

As soon as you walk in the door...drop whatever it is you are doing, and go HUG and KISS your spouse.

By doing this you are both re-affirming your sacred marriage vows, and leading by example.

Basically, your daily actions are in alignment with the feelings and thoughts of loving your spouse as you go about your separate days. You show through your hug/kiss that your relationship is paramount to the success of daily life.

And, when the days are long and rough, your relationship is a source of COMFORT rather than STRESS.

Check back in for more information about keeping the erotic alive in your committed relationships.

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The Basic Ways We Change

There are three ways in which we can actively monitor ourselves so that we may change how we interact with our surroundings:

(1) Thoughts (cognitions)
(2) Feelings (emotions)
(3) Actions (behaviors)

When you are in traditional counseling sessions--the counselor uses a variety of theories that typically focus on one of these areas to help you make changes in your life. In the best case scenario the theory that the counselor is using is based on their training background/when they received their masters degree, as well as what the current trend is based upon research on the effectiveness of the theories in actual practice. However, we won't delve too deeply into theories and understanding methodology, because this site is educational and for you to understand more of how you work.

The activities that are posted and linked on this blog are to help give you immediate tools to begin actively reorganizing how you interact with your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

People that are aware that they can use their feelings and thoughts to influence their actions are able to control what happens to them. Novel idea? This is because they recognize that they can influence their outcomes based on identifying the emotions they are feeling, then choosing what thoughts they would like to focus on, and then putting it in to action.

Welcome!

What's different about this blog from other love and relationship blogs is that it is chock full of skills and data so you immediately set to work on changing how you feel, think, and act so that your relationships will become healthier.

Are you interested in learning how to find and keep a healthy relationship? This is the place for you. On this site you will be able to ask questions, sign up for workshops, play games and take interactive quizzes.

What I've realized is that marriage education is not limited to already married couples. In fact--the communication skills, conflict resolution, anger management, parenting skills, emotional intelligence, understanding love languages, the neuroscience behind falling in love, erotic intelligence--this all applies to ANY committed relationship.

The key to having a successful, long-term relationship is to know that you may not have all the answers yourself, and in order to make your relationships better--you'll need to learn new ways of doing things. If you continue to practice the same behaviors, think the same thoughts, or feel the same emotions..., then chances are your relationship will deteriorate and fall apart. I want to help you to continue to fall in love or grow your friendship or move up in the workplace.

You cannot change or have control over anything but yourself! So if you want things to get better, then you have to learn new ways to think and act. Did you know that feelings are not reality? Being able to identify what you are feeling will help you use your emotions to think new thoughts, which in turn will affect how you choose to act!

Click on the tabs to learn skills or find out more about specific relationship issues based on your relationship status. Check back often to learn more about using your emotions and thoughts to influence your actions and get the results that you desire! Content is updated 2-3 times per week.

Training and Education

2011. Mars Venus Coaching Training with Dr. John Gray
2010. Active Relationships Certification in Six Workshops:
Active Military Life & Resiliency Skills,
Active Relationships for Young Adults,
Active Choices,
Active Marriage,
Active Families, &
Active Adults
2008. Moral Reconation Therapy (MRT) Certification
2007. Masters of Education, Counselor Education, K-12.
University of Alaska, Anchorage. GPA: 4.0
2007. Member Phi Kappa Phi Honor Society.
2006. Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST)
2002. Bachelor of Science, English with Honors. Russian minor.
The United States Naval Academy, Annapolis, MD

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