In this area we will first explore why we sometimes think that when we make decisions we sometimes think it is best if we take care of "me" first before the "we." We'll cover what has been happening in our society over the last century that has changed us from keeping our societal values of collectivism and individualism in balance to the unbalancing of pitting collectivism vs. individualism...
COLLECTIVSM...it takes a village to raise a child...
...to...
INDIVIDUALISM...I'm fine raising my child all by myself (sometimes--maybe with my partner's help too)....
The purpose of this blog is to help you have healthier relationships by giving you information and skills to change how you relate with others. I would like to help you gain experience in giving and receiving unconditional love with your partner, family, friends, acquaintances & strangers. It is open to all people: young or old, single or married, all faiths and denominations, and it is GLBT-friendly. Click on tabs below to learn more! These pages are often updated.
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The Basic Ways We Change
There are three ways in which we can actively monitor ourselves so that we may change how we interact with our surroundings:
(1) Thoughts (cognitions)
(2) Feelings (emotions)
(3) Actions (behaviors)
When you are in traditional counseling sessions--the counselor uses a variety of theories that typically focus on one of these areas to help you make changes in your life. In the best case scenario the theory that the counselor is using is based on their training background/when they received their masters degree, as well as what the current trend is based upon research on the effectiveness of the theories in actual practice. However, we won't delve too deeply into theories and understanding methodology, because this site is educational and for you to understand more of how you work.
The activities that are posted and linked on this blog are to help give you immediate tools to begin actively reorganizing how you interact with your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
People that are aware that they can use their feelings and thoughts to influence their actions are able to control what happens to them. Novel idea? This is because they recognize that they can influence their outcomes based on identifying the emotions they are feeling, then choosing what thoughts they would like to focus on, and then putting it in to action.
(1) Thoughts (cognitions)
(2) Feelings (emotions)
(3) Actions (behaviors)
When you are in traditional counseling sessions--the counselor uses a variety of theories that typically focus on one of these areas to help you make changes in your life. In the best case scenario the theory that the counselor is using is based on their training background/when they received their masters degree, as well as what the current trend is based upon research on the effectiveness of the theories in actual practice. However, we won't delve too deeply into theories and understanding methodology, because this site is educational and for you to understand more of how you work.
The activities that are posted and linked on this blog are to help give you immediate tools to begin actively reorganizing how you interact with your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
People that are aware that they can use their feelings and thoughts to influence their actions are able to control what happens to them. Novel idea? This is because they recognize that they can influence their outcomes based on identifying the emotions they are feeling, then choosing what thoughts they would like to focus on, and then putting it in to action.
Latest Research on the Impact of Marriage on Family Life
This week check out your skills on how much you know about how marriage impacts family life.
This activity was created by Power of Two: online marriage help for relationship problems.