One of the greatest pieces of advice my husband and I were ever given before we got married and began living together was just this:

As soon as you walk in the door...drop whatever it is you are doing, and go HUG and KISS your spouse.

By doing this you are both re-affirming your sacred marriage vows, and leading by example.

Basically, your daily actions are in alignment with the feelings and thoughts of loving your spouse as you go about your separate days. You show through your hug/kiss that your relationship is paramount to the success of daily life.

And, when the days are long and rough, your relationship is a source of COMFORT rather than STRESS.

Check back in for more information about keeping the erotic alive in your committed relationships.

The Basic Ways We Change

There are three ways in which we can actively monitor ourselves so that we may change how we interact with our surroundings:

(1) Thoughts (cognitions)
(2) Feelings (emotions)
(3) Actions (behaviors)

When you are in traditional counseling sessions--the counselor uses a variety of theories that typically focus on one of these areas to help you make changes in your life. In the best case scenario the theory that the counselor is using is based on their training background/when they received their masters degree, as well as what the current trend is based upon research on the effectiveness of the theories in actual practice. However, we won't delve too deeply into theories and understanding methodology, because this site is educational and for you to understand more of how you work.

The activities that are posted and linked on this blog are to help give you immediate tools to begin actively reorganizing how you interact with your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

People that are aware that they can use their feelings and thoughts to influence their actions are able to control what happens to them. Novel idea? This is because they recognize that they can influence their outcomes based on identifying the emotions they are feeling, then choosing what thoughts they would like to focus on, and then putting it in to action.

Latest Research on the Impact of Marriage on Family Life

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