Teens and Tweens

Recognizing that boys and girls use communication for different reasons will help reduce the anxiety and angst you feel as you work your way through your teen years.

I first read Dr. John Gray's Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus back when I was 11 years old. I didn't realize until years later that what I learned from this book, impacted all of my relationships with boys.

I met my husband when I was 17 years old. I came from a household of women growing up. I attended and graduated from the U. S. Naval Academy. Over the years, the percentage of women at the Naval Academy has increased. In my company we started in 1998 with six women. Only two women out of 40 classmates in my company graduated. So when I say John Gray's material helped me understand how to live with guys for four years, it helped. I knew my husband first as a companymate, friend, and colleague for 4 years before we started dating. As a tween or teen--I want to help you navigate through these rough years so that you have a solid sense of who you are, and what kinds of relationships you want to build with other people. It starts now.

Would you like to learn basic relationship skills so you are happier with your family, friends, boyfriend or girlfriend, teachers, and/or coaches?

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The Basic Ways We Change

There are three ways in which we can actively monitor ourselves so that we may change how we interact with our surroundings:

(1) Thoughts (cognitions)
(2) Feelings (emotions)
(3) Actions (behaviors)

When you are in traditional counseling sessions--the counselor uses a variety of theories that typically focus on one of these areas to help you make changes in your life. In the best case scenario the theory that the counselor is using is based on their training background/when they received their masters degree, as well as what the current trend is based upon research on the effectiveness of the theories in actual practice. However, we won't delve too deeply into theories and understanding methodology, because this site is educational and for you to understand more of how you work.

The activities that are posted and linked on this blog are to help give you immediate tools to begin actively reorganizing how you interact with your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

People that are aware that they can use their feelings and thoughts to influence their actions are able to control what happens to them. Novel idea? This is because they recognize that they can influence their outcomes based on identifying the emotions they are feeling, then choosing what thoughts they would like to focus on, and then putting it in to action.

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